It had been one of those days. My morning started as usual, workout, then the life stuff I had to attend to.
After that, it was off to town to do errands and finally, landing in my favorite coffee cave to chill, socialize, and write.
Oh yeah. That’s what I’m here for.
Believe it or not, I am way more productive being out than being at home where things pull at me.
I had been writing for awhile and was wrestling with the feeling of needing something sweet. This is sometimes for me, normal, after a morning with a hard workout.
Sugar is nothing but pure, raw fuel for the body. I’ve learned to not fight against it when it hits, but get something to quiet that need.
Last year after a particularly long run, by midafternoon, I was craving jelly beans in the worst way. ( Can you say sugar?) I went and bought some and chowed down on a handful without blinking.
The next day, I had a couple and was overwhelmed with how sweet they were. I didn’t touch them after that.
Fast forward to the other afternoon with a similar feeling creeping in. I kept writing but that need was still there.
I finally decided I wanted ice cream. Actually, where I got it, it’s a fancier version with other goodies added into it. This one happened to be Salted Caramel.
As I’m prone to do posting fun, random, or whatever pics on my social media sites, I posted a pic of the ice cream.
As I expected several of my friends teased me about being “normal” and they were happy to see I ate stuff like, ice cream.
Of course I do. Don’t judge me 😛
I’m not just some perpetual veggie eating machine 😉 I mean I am… but… I still like some treats too.
Anyway, yeah, so the ice cream was delicious. But my tummy also let me know a bit later it wasn’t to crazy about that heavy treat during the day when it’s not used to it.
When you eat healthy most of the time, that other stuff really begins to not set well in your tummy.
So why am I telling you this? Because I want to share with you what I shared with those who follow me on social media.
The main thing that has led to me being successful in my weight loss and fitness has been a healthy dose of balance and moderation.
I knew I’d never be successful if I developed my own plan and it was restrictive and rigid. Somehow, knowing I could have my favorite things took away the focus from them. It’s a huge mental game and it was one I wanted to be in control over.
As I bounced through those first couple years losing weight, chocolate and occasional French fries were a part of my success. So was birthday cake and Christmas cookies.
Note I used the word occasional. As time went on, the pull became less and less. Mainly in part because your tastes begin to change and those foods start to taste “off” and that also helps to stay away from it. The other part is, knowing it was available in some ways, made me not think about it.
This is what I want to bring to you.
I believe successful weight loss comes with balance. We need to get rid of the all or nothing mentality. Have lots or have none. Do without or eat it all.
These thoughts and attitudes do not lead to success. They can contribute to guilt and more self indulgence. When we believe we’ve “failed” it turns into a brutal cycle we can battle.
The only time you fail is when you quit. Staying with it no matter how bad you think you might’ve done in a day is more successful than quitting.
Life is going on and it has fun things like celebrations, and sometimes, it even has random just for the hell of it ice cream afternoons.
Did eating ice cream change anything for me? Did it change my fitness level? Make me gain 5 lbs? Turn me into a crazy “I can eat anything now” monster because I had ice cream?
Nothing changed for me.
I eat well 95% of the time and the other is for whatever floats my boat.
Balance. Moderation. What is sustainable for the rest of my life.
That stuff works.
If you make it your goal to eat well and eat well the majority of the time, you are on your way to a life time of success. Throw in some solid exercise you’re doing even better.
I firmly believe that when you know you can have everything ( not that you are going to) and that foods aren’t forbidden or good or bad, it removes a lot of the power from them.
It protects you from the “Last Supper” mentality.
You know… eat it ALL now ’cause tomorrow I diet and I will never, ever have it again.
**raise your hand if you’ve done that** 😉
If you know you can have it, you don’t have to act like the garbage can and clean it all up in a night. No one will take it away so you can’t have it again. Really, your favorite foods will still be around.
Do you see how so much of our thinking can be disordered when it comes to food and weight loss ?
This might take some practice. It might take a failed attempt or two to nail this practice. Maybe you’ll slip up and eat a half bag of cookies.
It’s ok… keep on with it… not the eating cookies part, the practice part 😉
With practice and some balance and moderation, you can have your ice cream and lose weight too.