The question came at me again. I get a lot of questions but this one comes up often….
“How do I get abs?”
Realistically we ALL have them. The strong muscle structure that supports our back and inner organs come as standard equipment on all human bodies.
I know what the well intending person means.
How do I get defined abs? ones that show and pop ?
This really depends on your goal, what you’re wanting to achieve. For many people on their weigh loss journey, just losing fat off of their belly is all they want. Less around the waist, nothing rolling over the top making that awkward “muffin top”. Less around the middle is better for your health even if you don’t care if you ever see a defined ab muscle.
Excess fat around the belly can contribute to heart disease, diabetes, and some types of cancer.
Aesthetics aside… losing it off your middle is in your best health interest.
But… what if you do care and want to see those clear cut and chiseled ab muscles ? or muscles of any kind?
You ready ?
It takes work, dropping enough body fat and having a wicked eye towards your nutrition.
Muscles are simply not visible with to much fat.
There’s this little saying that ab’s are made in the kitchen and it’s true. What and how you eat definitely comes into play in the muscle game, especially with your abs.
And what you eat is crucial to dropping fat while striving to maintain muscle mass.
But in the process of losing weight it’s important that you are building muscle.
If you diet down without building a solid foundation of strength and dense muscle tissue you’ll end up “skinny fat” ( it means you are under lean, your body has less muscle than fat) , weak and unhealthy.
What does that mean for someone wanting to have muscles that show up ? It means even if you are packing some extra weight, you are working on building muscle. It means you have a good strength training plan to build muscle mass while you work at cutting fat… so when you’ve slowly and steadily dropped that… you will have a muscle base to show up.
No matter how thin you get, if you haven’t built the core muscles in your abs you won’t have the results you are wanting. In fact if you haven’t built muscle anywhere, it won’t be there when you drop the fat.
I have been my own sort of experiment these past few years. I see magazine pictures of people like “before/after” but I don’t know them. I don’t really even know how they got to where they are today. But I do know myself and understand what it’s taken to get me where I am and the fact it’s taken time to achieve it, and I know it will take more time and discipline to further myself.



You have to understand, I am a fairly ordinary woman who has done this on her own with no coaches, trainers or anyone else. I work hard, read a lot, use things I think are helpful for me, reject what I don’t think is helpful and I’ve continued to move forward a little at a time.
Do I want to be stronger ? Yes. Do I know I can have better muscles and definition? Yes. Do I understand because of where I am now it will take more disciplined work and time?
Of course I do. I’m ok with that since I know it’s a process.
The same goes for you. You won’t have visible results without a strong foundation. You will need significant muscle mass before you see abs and work before you see other muscles.
But hey, remember in the process, you are getting stronger for living your life and that is a total bonus 🙂
What about you? Do you seek a strong, muscled or what people refer to as a “toned” look? Is that a goal? Or are you happy just being strong enough to cart the groceries in with less trips to the car ? 😉
Wow, Cathie! I didn’t know all your family stuff in addition to your health care pursuits! You have so much to be proud of!
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Thank you so much =) Yeah, well, everyone has things in life, right? My stuff isn’t really a secret, I just try and offer positivity to those I encounter through daily life and my social media places =)
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