I was chatting with my client at our weekly meeting when she told me she had thought of contacting me last year, then again, recently. This is when she reached out to me in response to my announcement of taking on a client.
She was tired of where she was at and was ready to start making changes in herself, the biggest one being to lose weight.
She had a question that she wanted to ask me, something she had wondered about.
In her battle of start a diet, get discouraged, quit, feel guilty, go back to old patterns and habits ( ’cause those are comfy for all of us) her question was…
“What made you “get it” ?”
She was asking what had clicked in me and been the turning point that I kept on going, didn’t quit and give up and walk away from doing it. How had I kept at it and lost weight ( and kept it off)?
What made me do it and more importantly, stay with it ?
I wish I could say I told her it was some special, magic thing I did. I wish I could just write out the instructions to making everyone be successful who sets out to do it.
You know why ?
The desire, the want, the need, must come from deep inside of you. You have to hunger for that change.
You have to want it badly enough for yourself that you’re willing to make the sacrifices required to get there.
Sacrifices of time and energy, changing behaviors and habits, making yourself uncomfortable, have a willing attitude to be molded into someone different, patience with yourself as you stumble, fall, and get up again, and a tenacious spirit that refuses to give up. Honestly, you even need a practical mind that knows it’s a process that will take time and it won’t be instant gratification.
You have to be at the point where you know you want to do it for yourself because you’re simply tired of where you are and want things differently. Yeah, just let that breathe over you for a second.
The secret is: you have to want it badly enough to do things differently and you have to really, truly, want it for yourself.
My client, is at that point. I think she has all the right elements in place to slowly, steadily move forward and make positive life changes for herself. She’s learning about food and feeding her body appropriately and at the right times. She’s learning to listen to her body. She also knows it’s a slow process and she’s willing to invest the time to reach her goals. We will continue each week looking at new habits and replacing the not so good ones with better ones. It takes a little time to rework ingrained habits in your life, but it can be done.
So there you go. No magic secret. No gimmick or potion.
The “thing” that got me going, made me start and not quit… well.. that came from within me.. just like it needs to come from within you.
I don’t want to call it “will power” cause that’s so subjective and fickle. Our will power can be gone in an instant. It can be gone in the face of chocolate cake or a lazy morning you don’t “feel” like working out.
No, it has to be something deeper and more powerful. A force to be reckoned with.
That force is you.
Nothing is more powerful than the human mind when it determines to take on something and conquer it. Nothing is more powerful than your mind conquering the limits of your body… nothing….
You’ve got everything in you … you just need to harness it and let it out.